I hope you are well.

Thank you for your responses and for clarifying your position. I completely understand and respect that coaching is reserved for current clients.

My question about emotional unavailability and self-sabotage was simply intended to better understand your earlier observations. These are significant assessments, and I was hoping to understand the specific behaviours that led you to those conclusions so that I could reflect on them constructively and continue developing personally.

Regarding my dating profile, when I asked whether it was “good enough”, I meant whether creating a profile on the platform counts as taking practical action towards meeting someone, particularly in light of your earlier encouragement to move from thinking and analysing into action.

I wasn't seeking approval or asking whether my profile was good enough for anyone in particular. I was simply reflecting on the steps I have taken towards my goal.

I appreciate the feedback you have provided and will revisit our previous discussions. I also have no objection to you contributing to my threads. I value constructive feedback and different perspectives, even when they challenge my own understanding.

Thank you again, and I wish you well.

Kind regards

Talia

Could you give specific examples of what you see as emotional unavailability or self-sabotage, and explain what a healthier response would look like?

Hi Talia! While I occasionally pitch in thoughts, coaching is reserved for clients. I'm sure you understand. You could refer back to your prior thread which likely contains some feedback on that. Alternatively, you can always ask for me not to post to your threads.

I have opened a dating profile here, is it not good enough? 

"Good enough" for what or to who?  The Open Online Dating forum is provided as a free resource for those wanting to list themselves in a dating forum!

Thank you, Mark.

I agree, somehow. I’m open to reflecting on my behaviour. Could you give specific examples of what you see as emotional unavailability or self-sabotage, and explain what a healthier response would look like? That would help me understand your feedback and distinguish protective boundaries from patterns I may need to change.

I am actively working on my 4 pillars 24/7. Making remarkable progress.

looking forward to hearing from you. 

kind regards

Talia

That's an important lesson when it comes to observing how others behave also: if we listen to their words, "I'm ready to find love!" But watch them continue to dig in their heels and self-sabotage... Then no, they're not ready for love 

They are - like you have been - emotionally unavailable. 

When we begin to recognize our own unavailability we start to more easily recognize others 

When we experience the work that it takes to become emotionally available we begin understanding what to look for to determine if others are emotionally available 

It's not being hard-headed. 

Great live the other day.  I learnt a lot, including what not to include in a dating profile.  My profile has lots of those. I am happy with it considering you approve.

I will keep in touch here, as per your advice. I believe this thread is adquate.

Kind regards

Talia

Good afternoon,

Thank you.