Occasionally I will have Members ask, “Can’t I just post privately?” or “Why are we all posting here?” or “Why don’t I just message you directly on WhatsApp, FB Messenger or text?”

This community and the offer to coach you here rather than in private is for a number of reasons:

1. Many of the challenges of dating are true for most of us. By discussing these common challenges in a group we both learn from other and allow others to learn by watching us. ALL of our dating improves as we recognize and learn from the common challenges we all go through. You may see me refer you to posts in other’s threads, just as I may refer others to read through yours. We all rise together.

2. It allows us to practice being authentic and transparent. Our dating will only be as good as we are able to be authentic and transparent. Hiding who you are, being afraid to talk about your real feelings or real life ALL get in the way of you making a REAL connection with others. One of the first things that we have to do if we want better dating is REALLY show how we are and get over the fear of being the unique, maybe quirky and different person we are (or fear we are). Of COURSE you are unique – that is your light. Let it shine by practicing being authentic and vulnerable here.

3. It illustrates your journey. By posting regularly you help yourself see your dating journey as a progression – you will reinforce your realizations and discoveries; you will be able to compare your prior beliefs to your dawning knowledge and you will see your progression. Likewise, if you are stuck, you will see the repetition of the areas you are stuck in – and seeing this is incredibly valuable in helping you get past that self-defeating behavior.

4. Efficiency. Can you message me privately, one-on-one? Yes! I absolutely offer one-on-one attention. But it costs CONSIDERABLY more than your Membership here. By all clients posting here it makes it FAR easier for me to get you the attention and advice that will make a difference in your dating. Although one-on-one coaching can be much more powerful (and fast), many are not yet that serious they are willing to invest that much money into finding their match(es). By compiling all Members here I can more easily stay up to date with what you are doing in your dating, more easily provide you direction and advice. That being said, when you’re ready to invest more in yourself DO as me about one-on-one coaching.

5. “But what if what I need to share is very sensitive / embarrassing / private!?” There is a feature in the Forum response field that allows you to post particularly embarrassing or sensitive information privately. If you need to post something very private or sensitive, please use the “Post Privately” button as seen in the attached photo.

Thank you for your willingness to make coaching you an efficient process! By giving yourself to the ability to learn over other’s shoulders, to read other’s journeys that may hold answers for yourself and to make the process efficient, it is easier to get you the advice and direction you need to make your dating successful!